23RD DEC 2009, 5.16AM:
Woke up in the morning and i feel nothing special.Although it's my birthday today,age numbers is no longer become a best friend of mine!
Being 27 and still single can be really heartache but I know that ALLAH SWT has plans for me and he show me the path to pursue my dreams.Alhamdulilah for that..
And yes, starting from today, I'm officially become an unemployed people!hahaha.Yesterday was my last day with the company and Insyallah, next week I'm going to pursue my dreams in BAHRAIN.
Cant wait for them to email me the e-ticket and off we go to Bahrain!
Tuesday, 22 December 2009
Saturday, 12 December 2009
In dilemma
This is not a favourite song of mine but it explains the situation i'm currently facing.
It has been 3 weeks i've worked with this company.It's a GLC and the colleagues are nice and warm.However, i don't really like the working culture whereby 'kuasa veto' diamalkan and maybe i might new to this office politics. I felt like throwing up when my immediate boss has asked me to do write up which was a proposal in BM and the sources were all in english. I also had to sleep at 5am on Saturday just because he wanted to review the paper on Sunday morning.
For the past few weeks, lots of calls for interviews came in n i;ve rejected to attend it.Until the company whom i really really want to work called me up.At first, i have turned down the offer as at that time, i was thinking that i should continue working with this GLC coz i can learn something new.But the HR insisted me to come as they said this opportunity doesn't comes twice.If i rejected the offer, they couldn't guaranteed when can i be shortlisted again.Oh ya, this company actually has offerred me a conditional offer letter when i was in London and i did pass my papers because i really really wanted to work with them..Now u can imagine, how passion and enthusiasm am i to the company.Of course m going to accept the offer.
So i went for the interview and i knew i've nailed it very very well. Before that, in the morning, 2 colleagues of mine told me that the write ups that i;m doing might be the tasks i'm going to do. As CF arm will separate into 2 which is 1-crunching numbers and 2-reporting. I was so disappointed and it makes me want leave the company so badly.
Later on, in the evening, i have received a call from that company and alhamdullilah i;ve nailed the job.The benefits has really captured my heart.It was a happy day for me..
The nightmare beguns when i took MC the next day.I was sicked ..and all of the colleagues including my bad mouth immediate boss thought that i went for an interview.So on Friday, when i come to office, i started to receive all this annoying question.After the staff meeting, i was called to meet my deputy ceo.A very emotional n unprofessional boss i would say.
She was disappointed and the first thing that came out from her mouth was
Boss:'Asyura, are u looking for a job behind my back?Please be honest with me.I have lots of friends n good networks in the market, if u lied, i tak teragak2 nak bagi u bad recommendation to people out there and what u did to us is not fair'.U took mc yesterday and i know you went for an interview.
I had no choice rather than tell her the truth...
Me:' For god sake, I WAS SICKED YESTERDAY.In fact, i got an MC today but since i'm feeling much better now, i come to work today.To be frank, I didn't look for a job. They were the one who contacted me back and offered me the job. And Yes, i've got another offer. This company actually offered me when i was in London and they were the one who drives me to pass my papers. But when i came home, they didn't contact me so i thought i don't have any hopes with them. That's why i applied for your company and alhamdulilah u guys hired me.
Boss: Then why didn't u tell me that u've been KIV when i interviewed you?takkan la because of few hundreds u want to leave?Where are u going?
me: It;s not the pay that i;m looking..it;s the benefits and i wont tell you where i;m going until it's really confirmed.But my passions mmg in that industry.
Boss: <span style="font-style:italic;">if that;s what u want, then i couldn;t do anything.If you want to learn new things, yes this is the place. I will guide u but if ur heart is no longer here. I couldnt anything.So wat's ur plan? U shld tell me earlier because i can rearrange for other people to handle the projects.
Me:Yes, i understand. It's a project based job description.Mmg i plan nak inform u but since it's still grey area..i tak nak inform lagi.once i get the green light from them which apparently the approval from the directors, i will tender and give 2 weeks notice immediately.
Boss: So when can they give u the feedback?I dont thnk u have to serve 2 weeks notice.Once u are confirm to leave, u can give 24hrs notice.tell that to HR.
Me: Insyallh by next week.
Boss: So wat happens if no respond from them by next week?
Me: I'm staying.
Boss: Okay, and if m back from australia and u're still around. Dont ever think of leaving the company again. You can go now.
So much DRAMA ON FRIDAY MORNING!!!!
Another dilemma...finally i have received an offer letter from the middle east Big 4 and i need to discuss few things with them as m worried that the accommodation might eat up my salary...
My uncle, aunty n close fren who is Manchester really support me to go to the middle east as it has always been my dreams to learn about islamic finance, islamic accouting and full adoption of IFRS.
As usual, there are other people who against it.Even my parents asked me to stay n work for my dream employer...
m so clueless..and i dont want to make d wrong decision in my life!
It has been 3 weeks i've worked with this company.It's a GLC and the colleagues are nice and warm.However, i don't really like the working culture whereby 'kuasa veto' diamalkan and maybe i might new to this office politics. I felt like throwing up when my immediate boss has asked me to do write up which was a proposal in BM and the sources were all in english. I also had to sleep at 5am on Saturday just because he wanted to review the paper on Sunday morning.
For the past few weeks, lots of calls for interviews came in n i;ve rejected to attend it.Until the company whom i really really want to work called me up.At first, i have turned down the offer as at that time, i was thinking that i should continue working with this GLC coz i can learn something new.But the HR insisted me to come as they said this opportunity doesn't comes twice.If i rejected the offer, they couldn't guaranteed when can i be shortlisted again.Oh ya, this company actually has offerred me a conditional offer letter when i was in London and i did pass my papers because i really really wanted to work with them..Now u can imagine, how passion and enthusiasm am i to the company.Of course m going to accept the offer.
So i went for the interview and i knew i've nailed it very very well. Before that, in the morning, 2 colleagues of mine told me that the write ups that i;m doing might be the tasks i'm going to do. As CF arm will separate into 2 which is 1-crunching numbers and 2-reporting. I was so disappointed and it makes me want leave the company so badly.
Later on, in the evening, i have received a call from that company and alhamdullilah i;ve nailed the job.The benefits has really captured my heart.It was a happy day for me..
The nightmare beguns when i took MC the next day.I was sicked ..and all of the colleagues including my bad mouth immediate boss thought that i went for an interview.So on Friday, when i come to office, i started to receive all this annoying question.After the staff meeting, i was called to meet my deputy ceo.A very emotional n unprofessional boss i would say.
She was disappointed and the first thing that came out from her mouth was
Boss:'Asyura, are u looking for a job behind my back?Please be honest with me.I have lots of friends n good networks in the market, if u lied, i tak teragak2 nak bagi u bad recommendation to people out there and what u did to us is not fair'.U took mc yesterday and i know you went for an interview.
I had no choice rather than tell her the truth...
Me:' For god sake, I WAS SICKED YESTERDAY.In fact, i got an MC today but since i'm feeling much better now, i come to work today.To be frank, I didn't look for a job. They were the one who contacted me back and offered me the job. And Yes, i've got another offer. This company actually offered me when i was in London and they were the one who drives me to pass my papers. But when i came home, they didn't contact me so i thought i don't have any hopes with them. That's why i applied for your company and alhamdulilah u guys hired me.
Boss: Then why didn't u tell me that u've been KIV when i interviewed you?takkan la because of few hundreds u want to leave?Where are u going?
me: It;s not the pay that i;m looking..it;s the benefits and i wont tell you where i;m going until it's really confirmed.But my passions mmg in that industry.
Boss: <span style="font-style:italic;">if that;s what u want, then i couldn;t do anything.If you want to learn new things, yes this is the place. I will guide u but if ur heart is no longer here. I couldnt anything.So wat's ur plan? U shld tell me earlier because i can rearrange for other people to handle the projects.
Me:Yes, i understand. It's a project based job description.Mmg i plan nak inform u but since it's still grey area..i tak nak inform lagi.once i get the green light from them which apparently the approval from the directors, i will tender and give 2 weeks notice immediately.
Boss: So when can they give u the feedback?I dont thnk u have to serve 2 weeks notice.Once u are confirm to leave, u can give 24hrs notice.tell that to HR.
Me: Insyallh by next week.
Boss: So wat happens if no respond from them by next week?
Me: I'm staying.
Boss: Okay, and if m back from australia and u're still around. Dont ever think of leaving the company again. You can go now.
So much DRAMA ON FRIDAY MORNING!!!!
Another dilemma...finally i have received an offer letter from the middle east Big 4 and i need to discuss few things with them as m worried that the accommodation might eat up my salary...
My uncle, aunty n close fren who is Manchester really support me to go to the middle east as it has always been my dreams to learn about islamic finance, islamic accouting and full adoption of IFRS.
As usual, there are other people who against it.Even my parents asked me to stay n work for my dream employer...
m so clueless..and i dont want to make d wrong decision in my life!
Friday, 20 November 2009
Yeay..big bucks are coming in babeh!
Alhamdlh,finally m being hired!
I went for an interview on 3rd Nov..even though the deputy CEO was keen to take me in,i didn't put any high hope as they didn't communicate with me for the past 2 weeks. I thought the chance that i might got has been thrown to drain.
Then, a friend of my friend told me that a big 4 in middle east is currently looking for a qualified chartered acc10 and yes i did send my resume. To my surprise, while i was waiting for my 2nd movie to watch last Monday, i received a call from a director from that Big 4 middle east firm. It was smooth...and the next day, HR called me.
M yet to receive another call that pertains to the technical quests on IFRS which most probably will be conducted after Eid Adha. But, based on the first 2 conversations that i had with this director, it was very convincing..n i do hope that i can get this chance!I might say gdbye to Msia for the second time!
On Thurs, i received another call from a company which i've attended the interview on 3rd Nov.Yes, they are offering me the job and i need to come to their office to do some computer assessment on Friday.
Guess what, the assessments were challenging. I didn't say that it was tough. But I did well..They have 2 case studies which i need to analyse the data and presented in 3 slides for CEO to review. Then i have to write a short essay abt my expectation with that co, what i can deliver and how my experiences related to it.
Oh ya, i've also met my EXPwC colleague there. She has been there for the past 9 months and she told me that, i was the only one who managed to get into their CF dept. There will be only 2 of us in the department! Gosh!
Oh this CF job scope is not similar to banks, so basically what they do are they work closely with the external auditors on potential JVs, Mergers & Acquisitions.
Well, if i didn't get any calls from that BIG 4, m gonna say goodbye to IFRS then..:)
10 mins later, i received a phone call from HR and yes, i got through! Gonna start work on Monday! Yes..and i feel bliss as the distance from offc to my house takes only 10mins!
Wish me luck
I went for an interview on 3rd Nov..even though the deputy CEO was keen to take me in,i didn't put any high hope as they didn't communicate with me for the past 2 weeks. I thought the chance that i might got has been thrown to drain.
Then, a friend of my friend told me that a big 4 in middle east is currently looking for a qualified chartered acc10 and yes i did send my resume. To my surprise, while i was waiting for my 2nd movie to watch last Monday, i received a call from a director from that Big 4 middle east firm. It was smooth...and the next day, HR called me.
M yet to receive another call that pertains to the technical quests on IFRS which most probably will be conducted after Eid Adha. But, based on the first 2 conversations that i had with this director, it was very convincing..n i do hope that i can get this chance!I might say gdbye to Msia for the second time!
On Thurs, i received another call from a company which i've attended the interview on 3rd Nov.Yes, they are offering me the job and i need to come to their office to do some computer assessment on Friday.
Guess what, the assessments were challenging. I didn't say that it was tough. But I did well..They have 2 case studies which i need to analyse the data and presented in 3 slides for CEO to review. Then i have to write a short essay abt my expectation with that co, what i can deliver and how my experiences related to it.
Oh ya, i've also met my EXPwC colleague there. She has been there for the past 9 months and she told me that, i was the only one who managed to get into their CF dept. There will be only 2 of us in the department! Gosh!
Oh this CF job scope is not similar to banks, so basically what they do are they work closely with the external auditors on potential JVs, Mergers & Acquisitions.
Well, if i didn't get any calls from that BIG 4, m gonna say goodbye to IFRS then..:)
10 mins later, i received a phone call from HR and yes, i got through! Gonna start work on Monday! Yes..and i feel bliss as the distance from offc to my house takes only 10mins!
Wish me luck
Tuesday, 10 November 2009
Being a single 27 years old highly educated chic, you will be in the lime light at wedding receptions ( be it your friend’s or relative’s wedding occasion). All these kepochi pakciks and makciks will start asking your parents and the possible questions are:
Berdesing jugaklah telinga kalau dengar soalan-soalan macam ini. But, there is nothing much that you can do. You don’t have the power to satisfy everybody. And I do believe that my parents also feel the pressure when people start interrogating them like a suspect for murder.
I know that in life, you wouldn’t be getting things that you’ve been dreaming of. Anyway, it isn't bad to be SINGLE. I enjoyed being single, able to live as free as a bird and able to flirt with any guys that I want. When I meet my ex-schoolmates who have little midget in their stomach and holding 2 munchkins both left and right, it triggers me how blissful I am for not being married.
And yes, I do want to get married but it’s not the right time for me yet. God knows what’s good and bad for me and I leave everything to him. Furthermore, I haven’t met my MR RIGHT yet. Sometimes, I think I’m already married to my parents, my life and career (soon to be).
I’m about to attend wedding reception this Sunday. I can’t escape! It’s my cousin wedding and thank GOD, I’m no longer become bunga telur girl. Another stressful day to go through..I better polish my armour .
‘ Eh, Dah besar eh anak dara kau, bile nak makan nasi minyak ni’.
‘Wah, lawa anak dara kau ni, dah ada orang ker?Belaja pandai-pandai, takkanlah tak pandai cari bf’
‘Oh, ni mesti memilih ini. Janganlah memilih, nanti tak kahwin kau. Jangan jual mahal sangat, nanti terus tak laku’
Berdesing jugaklah telinga kalau dengar soalan-soalan macam ini. But, there is nothing much that you can do. You don’t have the power to satisfy everybody. And I do believe that my parents also feel the pressure when people start interrogating them like a suspect for murder.
I know that in life, you wouldn’t be getting things that you’ve been dreaming of. Anyway, it isn't bad to be SINGLE. I enjoyed being single, able to live as free as a bird and able to flirt with any guys that I want. When I meet my ex-schoolmates who have little midget in their stomach and holding 2 munchkins both left and right, it triggers me how blissful I am for not being married.
And yes, I do want to get married but it’s not the right time for me yet. God knows what’s good and bad for me and I leave everything to him. Furthermore, I haven’t met my MR RIGHT yet. Sometimes, I think I’m already married to my parents, my life and career (soon to be).
I’m about to attend wedding reception this Sunday. I can’t escape! It’s my cousin wedding and thank GOD, I’m no longer become bunga telur girl. Another stressful day to go through..I better polish my armour .
~Wedding bells~
It's not that i'm getting married soon, it just something that came to my mind before i dozed off to bed last night. I don't think that my time will come soon and this is because i don't even have somebody special at this moment.Definitely, you won't be getting any wedding invitations from me anytime soon.ahhahaha
Oh, school holiday is just around the corner and YES, i did received lOTS of wedding invitations..Actually, m sicked of attending wedding invitations anymore. I guess at this age, wherever you go, u will be asked when is your turn to get hitch?
Yah, i know, this is disastrous for me, 27 single and brainy chic!ahaks.
Nway, for those who are going to get married soon..here are some tips for you:
1.Budget (Inclusive hantaran, dewan makan, catering, bilik pengantin..etc)
2.Your wedding theme
3.Create a guest list
4.Door gifts
5.House hunting
6.Honeymoon destination (After all the busy period and hard work, it would be perfect to spend with your soulmate at a romantic, breath-taking view place and have ur peace of mind)
I think that;s all that i can think off..
Planning for more get away trips
Di kala kebosanan ni, accidentally aku jumpe tempat2 menarik yg wajib dilawati di MALAYSIA, tanah tumpah airku...
Disember ni, aku dan kawan2 plan nak g jenguk kelip2 kat Kuala Selangor. Tempat tuh kat Kampung Kuantan dan nak tgk kelip2 tuh kna naik bot. Ada org ckp, ada buaya kat situ.
WELL, bende2 yg best ni, mesti ada penghalangkan. Takpela, tak kire..nak jugak tgk Kelip2 @ Kuala Selangor.
Insyallah, kalau ada duit lebih, bULAN Mar-Apr, ingat nak pergi Pulau Perhentian/Rendang. Either one la..tp mcm nak g pulau perhentian..Kawan aku ckp bleh tgk dolphins kat situ. Yela, dah tak dpt tgk kat Wales, dpt tgk kat sini pon jadilah.
Next on the list is Gunung Gading National Park. Kat sini ada caves, ada RAFFLESIA dan ada air terjun.
Ni semua baru planning ar..pasni kna carik kaki nak pergi B-)
Disember ni, aku dan kawan2 plan nak g jenguk kelip2 kat Kuala Selangor. Tempat tuh kat Kampung Kuantan dan nak tgk kelip2 tuh kna naik bot. Ada org ckp, ada buaya kat situ.
WELL, bende2 yg best ni, mesti ada penghalangkan. Takpela, tak kire..nak jugak tgk Kelip2 @ Kuala Selangor.
Insyallah, kalau ada duit lebih, bULAN Mar-Apr, ingat nak pergi Pulau Perhentian/Rendang. Either one la..tp mcm nak g pulau perhentian..Kawan aku ckp bleh tgk dolphins kat situ. Yela, dah tak dpt tgk kat Wales, dpt tgk kat sini pon jadilah.
Next on the list is Gunung Gading National Park. Kat sini ada caves, ada RAFFLESIA dan ada air terjun.
Ni semua baru planning ar..pasni kna carik kaki nak pergi B-)
Saturday, 7 November 2009
The best way to keep one's word is not to give it.
It's so frustrating and heart-aching when someone breaks his promises. To me, when you have made promises to somebody, you are oblige to keep it and deliver it accordingly.
I think it's already a high time for me to realize that i shouldn't place any hopes on words that came out from his mouth.
God is great and he knows what is best for you.
Insyallah, i will be alright and a lesson to learn here...never believe when guys make promises to you because they are vulnerable.
I think it's already a high time for me to realize that i shouldn't place any hopes on words that came out from his mouth.
God is great and he knows what is best for you.
Insyallah, i will be alright and a lesson to learn here...never believe when guys make promises to you because they are vulnerable.
Tuesday, 20 October 2009
Again about relationship??
Since I'm still waiting for the calls for interviews, internet has become my best friend. Once i got up from bed, i will greet my laptop Morning and same goes for Good Night.
I came across an article where it says that us (the single ladies) should know about the signs that guys gave. I'm saying that this is NOT 100% accurate plus with the box office movie which was shown ' He's just NOT into you', at least IT give us guidance on hints that guys gave to us.
Here are the 99 things that we should know about guys and let me put myself into these scenarios:
1. Guys don't actually look after good-looking girls. They prefer neat and presentable girls.
2. Guys hate flirts.
3. A guy can like you for a minute, and then forget you afterwards.
4. When a guy says he doesn't understand you, it simply means you're not thinking the way he is.
5. "Are you doing something?" or "Have you eaten already?" are the first usual questions a guy asks on the phone just to get out from stammering.
6. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep,they always think about the girl they truly care about.
7. When a guy really likes you, he'll disregard all your bad characteristics.
8. Guys go crazy over a girl's smile.
9. Guys will do anything just to get the girl's attention.
10. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend.
11. When guys want to meet your parents. Let them.
12. Guys want to tell you many things but they can't. And they sure have one habit to gain courage and spirit to tell you many things and it is drinking!
13. Guys cry!!!
14. Don't provoke(irritate) the guy to heat up. Believe me. He will.
15. Guys can never dream and hope too much.
16. Guys usually try hard to get the girl who has dumped them, and this makes it harder for them to accept their defeat.
17. When you touch a guy's heart, there's no turning back.
18. Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!..uh...never mind!" would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking.
19. Guys go crazy when girls touch their hands.
20. Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.
21. When a guy makes a prolonged "umm" or makes any excuses when you're asking him to do you a favor, he's actually saying that he doesn't like you and he can't lay down the card for you.
22. When a girl says "no", a guy hears it as "try again tomorrow."
23. You have to tell a guy what you really want before he gets the message clearly.
24. Guys hate gays!
25. Guys love their moms.
26. A guy would sacrifice his money for lunch just to get you a couple of roses.
27. A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn't mean that the guy likes her.
28 You can never understand him unless you listen to him.
29. If a guy tells you he loves you once in a lifetime. He does.
30. Beware. Guys can make gossips scatter through half of the face of the earth faster than girls can.
31. Like Eve, girls are guys' weaknesses.
32. Guys are very open about themselves.
33. It's good to test a guy first before you believe him. But don't let him wait that long.
34. No guy is bad when he is courting
35. Guys hate it when their clothes get dirty. Even a small dot.
36. Guys really admire girls that they like even if they're not that much pretty.
I came across an article where it says that us (the single ladies) should know about the signs that guys gave. I'm saying that this is NOT 100% accurate plus with the box office movie which was shown ' He's just NOT into you', at least IT give us guidance on hints that guys gave to us.
Here are the 99 things that we should know about guys and let me put myself into these scenarios:
1. Guys don't actually look after good-looking girls. They prefer neat and presentable girls.
2. Guys hate flirts.
3. A guy can like you for a minute, and then forget you afterwards.
4. When a guy says he doesn't understand you, it simply means you're not thinking the way he is.
5. "Are you doing something?" or "Have you eaten already?" are the first usual questions a guy asks on the phone just to get out from stammering.
[Checked]
6. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep,they always think about the girl they truly care about.
7. When a guy really likes you, he'll disregard all your bad characteristics.
8. Guys go crazy over a girl's smile.
9. Guys will do anything just to get the girl's attention.
[Checked- He always always tried to pick a fight with whenever we meet]
10. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend.
11. When guys want to meet your parents. Let them.
12. Guys want to tell you many things but they can't. And they sure have one habit to gain courage and spirit to tell you many things and it is drinking!
13. Guys cry!!!
14. Don't provoke(irritate) the guy to heat up. Believe me. He will.
15. Guys can never dream and hope too much.
16. Guys usually try hard to get the girl who has dumped them, and this makes it harder for them to accept their defeat.
17. When you touch a guy's heart, there's no turning back.
18. Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!..uh...never mind!" would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking.
19. Guys go crazy when girls touch their hands.
20. Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.
21. When a guy makes a prolonged "umm" or makes any excuses when you're asking him to do you a favor, he's actually saying that he doesn't like you and he can't lay down the card for you.
Came across with this answer and i write him off!
22. When a girl says "no", a guy hears it as "try again tomorrow."
23. You have to tell a guy what you really want before he gets the message clearly.
24. Guys hate gays!
25. Guys love their moms.
[Checked]
26. A guy would sacrifice his money for lunch just to get you a couple of roses.
27. A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn't mean that the guy likes her.
28 You can never understand him unless you listen to him.
29. If a guy tells you he loves you once in a lifetime. He does.
30. Beware. Guys can make gossips scatter through half of the face of the earth faster than girls can.
He likes to gossip!Gosh!
31. Like Eve, girls are guys' weaknesses.
32. Guys are very open about themselves.
]He told me about his past, even though i didn't raise any questions about his family
33. It's good to test a guy first before you believe him. But don't let him wait that long.
34. No guy is bad when he is courting
35. Guys hate it when their clothes get dirty. Even a small dot.
36. Guys really admire girls that they like even if they're not that much pretty.
[Oohh i love this one though!]
37. Your best friend, whom your boyfriend seeks help from about his problems with you may end up being admired by your boyfriend.
38. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don't need to give advice.[Will do]
39. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.[Oh yeah? He always do this to me!]
40. A guy finds ways to keep you off from linking with someone else.
41. Guys love girls with brains more than girls in miniskirts.
42. Guys try to find the stuffed toy a girl wants but would unluckily get the wrong one.
43. Guys virtually brag about anything.
44. Guys cannot keep secrets that girls tell them.
45. Guys think too much.
46. Guys' fantasies are unlimited.
47. Girls' height doesn't really matter to a guy but her weight does![That's y m watching my weight now!]
48. Guys tend to get serious with their relationship and become too possessive. So watch out girls!!!
49. When a girl makes the boy suffer during courtship, it would be hard for him to let go of that girl.
50. It's not easy for a guy to let go of his girlfriend after they broke up especially when they've been together for 3 years or more.
**51. You have to tell a guy what you really want before getting involved with that guy.
52. A guy has to experience rejection, because if he's too-good-never-been-busted, never been in love and hurt, he won't be matured and grow up.[No wonder he is immatured]
53. When an unlikable circumstance comes, guys blame themselves a lot more than girls do. They could even hurt themselves physically.
54. Guys have strong passion to change but have weak will power.
55. Guys are tigers in their peer groups but become tamed pussycats with their girlfriends.
56. When a guy pretends to be calm, check if he's sweating. You'll probably see that he is nervous.
57. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl. He really is.
58. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he's just actually saying,"Please come and listen to me"
59. Guys don't really have final decisions.
60. When a guy loves you, bring out the best in him.
61. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him.
62. If a guy has been kept shut or silent, say something.
63. Guys believe that there's no such thing as love at first sight, but court the girls anyway and then realize at the end that he is wrong.
64. Guys like femininity not feebleness.*
65. Guys don't like girls who punch harder than they do.
66. A guy may instantly know if the girl likes him but can never be sure unless the girl tells him.
67. A guy would waste his time over video games and basketball, the way a girl would do over her romance novels and make-ups.
68. Guys love girls who can cook or bake.[He knows that i love to bake!]
69. Guys like girls who are like their moms. No kidding!
70. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.
71. A guy's friend knows everything about him. Use this to your advantage.
72. Don't be a snob. Guys may easily give up on the first sign of rejection.
73. Don't be biased. Try loving a guy without prejudice and you'll be surprised.***********
74. Girls who bathe in their eau de perfumes do more repelling than attracting guys.
75. Guys are more talkative than girls are especially when the topic is about girls.
76. Guys don't comprehend the statement "Get lost" too well.
77. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions but still love them more.
78. When a guy gives a crooked or pretentious grin at your jokes, he finds them offending and he just tried to be polite.
79. Guys don't care about how shiny their shoes are unlike girls.[Selekeh?ahhaha]
80. Guys tend to generalize about girls but once they get to know them,they'll realize they're wrong.
81. Any guy can handle his problems all by his own. He's just too stubborn to deal with it.
82. Guys find it so objectionable when a girl swears.
83. Guys' weakest point is at the knee.
84. When a problem arises, a guy usually keeps himself cool but is already thinking of a way out.
85. When a guy is conscious of his looks, it shows he is not good at fixing things.
86. When a guy looks at you, either he's amazed of you or he's criticizing you.
87. When you catch him cheating on you and he asks for a second chance,give it to him. But when you catch him again and he asks for another chance,ignore him.
88. If a guy lets you go, he really loves you.
89. If you have a boyfriend, and your boy best friend always glances at u and it obviously shows that he is jealous whenever you're with your boyfriend, all I can say is your boy best friend loves you more than your boyfriend does.[Erm his friend did this to me last last time..They were smiling whenever we made conversations..errm]
90. Guys learn from experience not from the romance books that girls read and take as their basis of experience.
91. You can tell if a guy is really hurt or in pain when he cries in front of you!
92. If a guy suddenly asks you for a date, ask him first why.
93. When a guy says he can't sleep if he doesn't hear your voice even just for one night, hang up. He also tells that to another girl. He only flatters you and sometimes makes fun of you.
94. You can truly say that a guy has good intentions if you see him praying sometimes.
95. Guys seek for advice not from a guy but from a girl.[Oh yeah? No wonder we have lots of 'Hari mendengar masalahku' haahahha]
96. Girls are allowed to touch boys' things. Not their hair![He scolded me when i said 'rambut ko kusut!'sorry eh..]
97. If a guy says you're beautiful, that guy likes you.
98. Guys hate girls who overreact.
99. Guys love you more than you love them if they are serious in your relationships.
It does not matter how many hints he gave. For me, i need a guaranteed. I do need him to confess that he loves me before i say that to him..
Whatever it is, keep praying and always open you options in finding a better person.
Thursday, 15 October 2009
Places that i want to visit before my last breathe~
Channel travel and living has always be my favorite channel on ASTRO. After i had my breakfast, indulged with a mug of nescafe and finished reading newspaper, i switched on TV and i was so lucky to watch this program on #707. It was on 1000 places that u must see before u die..
When i was working with PwC, i never bothered (plus i didn't have much ample time) to appreciate the nature. However, 1 year being abroad has opened my eyes to appreciate god's creations. Alhamdulilah, i managed to see many beautiful and breathtaking views when i was in UK and Europe.
Slowly I've developed my interest in outdoor activities such as hiking and exploring new things in life. There was a man whom i met while i was hiking along the Hadrian's Wall in Newcastle mentioned to me that he admired my courage and braveness to hike along the wall without taking any breaks and wearing a proper gear (especially with the unfriendly weather as it was raining like cats and dogs at that time). My friend and i hike for 2 1/2 mile and it was tremendous experience ever.
Anyway..the places that i wanna visit before my eyes are closed are:
1. Maldives
My jaw dropped on the table when i first saw its pictures on TV. My ideal honeymoon place would be here..yes here! But this thing only happen if i would be able to marry a millionaire! It costs a bomb to spend a night at this resort..
2. Taj Mahal
I would really feel that I'm already in Heaven if i could get few sips of cafe latte with the view of sunrise at Taj Mahal. Nothing would able to describe my feeling at that time, it might be romantic + am i already in heaven? + simply amazing!
3. Giza Pyramids
When i entered the Luvre (a museum in Paris which happens to the largest museum in the world), beside the portrait of Mona Lisa, an Egyptian antiques have always captured my eyes. I love everything about them..from the sculptures to the coffins, i love all the craved stuffs..
And a trip to Giza would be very challenging trip especially the crawling part inside the pyramids and this is a place that i want to visit before i turn 30!
4. Krabi Island in Thailand.
Thailand is synonym with it's speechless beautiful beaches. I hope to spend few nights watching sunset in Thailand. It would be great if i could go with my girlfriends. Insyallah, i shall realize this dream somewhere in 2011.
5. Pulau Sipadan, Pulau Perhentian and Pulau Redang
I am hoping that i would be able to pay these places a visit in 2010. A friend of mine said that it's possible to watch dolphins at Pulau Redang in April. I do hope and always keep my fingers crossed that he would be able to bring me to this place. Although he's always busy with his current job, i do hope that he would be able to keep his word to me. If not, i would really feel devastated.
I never tried snorkeling before and being in these islands, snorkeling is a must thing to do!
There goes my list..my TOP 5..i do have some more..but for a time being, let me only disclose the TOP 5.How about you? I'm sure you also have places that you want to visit before your last breathe.
When i was working with PwC, i never bothered (plus i didn't have much ample time) to appreciate the nature. However, 1 year being abroad has opened my eyes to appreciate god's creations. Alhamdulilah, i managed to see many beautiful and breathtaking views when i was in UK and Europe.
Slowly I've developed my interest in outdoor activities such as hiking and exploring new things in life. There was a man whom i met while i was hiking along the Hadrian's Wall in Newcastle mentioned to me that he admired my courage and braveness to hike along the wall without taking any breaks and wearing a proper gear (especially with the unfriendly weather as it was raining like cats and dogs at that time). My friend and i hike for 2 1/2 mile and it was tremendous experience ever.
Anyway..the places that i wanna visit before my eyes are closed are:
1. Maldives
My jaw dropped on the table when i first saw its pictures on TV. My ideal honeymoon place would be here..yes here! But this thing only happen if i would be able to marry a millionaire! It costs a bomb to spend a night at this resort..
2. Taj Mahal
I would really feel that I'm already in Heaven if i could get few sips of cafe latte with the view of sunrise at Taj Mahal. Nothing would able to describe my feeling at that time, it might be romantic + am i already in heaven? + simply amazing!
3. Giza Pyramids
When i entered the Luvre (a museum in Paris which happens to the largest museum in the world), beside the portrait of Mona Lisa, an Egyptian antiques have always captured my eyes. I love everything about them..from the sculptures to the coffins, i love all the craved stuffs..
And a trip to Giza would be very challenging trip especially the crawling part inside the pyramids and this is a place that i want to visit before i turn 30!
4. Krabi Island in Thailand.
Thailand is synonym with it's speechless beautiful beaches. I hope to spend few nights watching sunset in Thailand. It would be great if i could go with my girlfriends. Insyallah, i shall realize this dream somewhere in 2011.
5. Pulau Sipadan, Pulau Perhentian and Pulau Redang
I am hoping that i would be able to pay these places a visit in 2010. A friend of mine said that it's possible to watch dolphins at Pulau Redang in April. I do hope and always keep my fingers crossed that he would be able to bring me to this place. Although he's always busy with his current job, i do hope that he would be able to keep his word to me. If not, i would really feel devastated.
I never tried snorkeling before and being in these islands, snorkeling is a must thing to do!
There goes my list..my TOP 5..i do have some more..but for a time being, let me only disclose the TOP 5.How about you? I'm sure you also have places that you want to visit before your last breathe.
Tuesday, 13 October 2009
PMSNAMI~
Lyrics | Michael Buble Lyrics | Haven%27t Met You Yet Lyrics
Seriously, I'm seriously bored waiting for interview calls and that makes me decided to upload more posts here.
I came across this video on Youtube a day ago..and I totally have fond with this. Well, people may say that I'm mushy but the song really suits me.
I'm currently facing heartache and feeling a little bit doomed. Sometimes, i do feel jealous when someone become close to my friend. I don't know why she has to run when he called. It's not that i don't know that he might called her regarding their 'deal'.Maybe it's high time for me to experience my PMS cycle.
Why do i need to feel jealous about?There is nothing between them and there is also nothing between us. People said when you like somebody, your heart beats faster when u met him.But it didn't happen to me.
Nah...Just go with the flow and people always mentioned to me that..if a guy likes you, he will know what to do..Stop giving him excuses..Due that, i won't text him or bug him until he make his first move.
Hope the time flies soon so that i will start my new career..i need to meet new people..broaden friends networking :)
Monday, 5 October 2009
Hello world!! Yes..I’m updating this blog from MALAYSIA. Home sweet home. I think it’s still not too late for me to wish you SALAM EID MUBARAK!
It has been a month since I left my footprints in United Kingdom. At that the time of my departure in Heathrow Airport, I felt so eager and excited to go home. Not only because I miss my parents, I need to get back to the real world after a year I took a career break. Another reason was also because all of my friends that I recently knew, some are already in Malaysia and while the rest are finding their path back home in few weeks time.
The moment my plane touched KLIA, it was the happiest feeling that I ever felt in my life. It’s true that people said wherever you have travelled; you will still want to go back to your own country.
After 2 weeks I came back, I have organized an Iftar gathering with my Kelana Convoy mate. It was held in Putrajaya. Even though only 7 (out of 20 that I have invited), the Iftar gathering went well. Despite of the food which turned not to up my standard, I still felt happy because of the night I spent with them.
Then, my weeks were full with Iftar invitations. I have attended 2 invitations with my PwC and ex-Unitenian clan. Nothing less that I would comment, the dinners were Perfect!
Then Eid came. I spent a week in Hometown. Luckily, my bro flight was on a week after Syawal. So after a year been abroad, this is my first Eid with my family.
The month of Eid would not be perfect without Raya Open house. Last Saturday, I went to Aunty Jijah’s Open House whom I met during my trip to Europe. Then, I have invited those I knew during the trip to my house.
Oh I’m still waiting for my future employer to arrange the final stage of interview. I went for an assessment last Friday and I am still keeping my fingers crossed that they will arrange the interview to be held this week.
Oh before i forgot, i would like to inform that my article to wales has been published on Harian Metro yesterday. Go and check it out!
(http://www.hmetro.com.my/Current_News/myMetro/Sunday/Ekspresi/20091004121017/Article/indexv_html)
It has been a month since I left my footprints in United Kingdom. At that the time of my departure in Heathrow Airport, I felt so eager and excited to go home. Not only because I miss my parents, I need to get back to the real world after a year I took a career break. Another reason was also because all of my friends that I recently knew, some are already in Malaysia and while the rest are finding their path back home in few weeks time.
The moment my plane touched KLIA, it was the happiest feeling that I ever felt in my life. It’s true that people said wherever you have travelled; you will still want to go back to your own country.
After 2 weeks I came back, I have organized an Iftar gathering with my Kelana Convoy mate. It was held in Putrajaya. Even though only 7 (out of 20 that I have invited), the Iftar gathering went well. Despite of the food which turned not to up my standard, I still felt happy because of the night I spent with them.
Then, my weeks were full with Iftar invitations. I have attended 2 invitations with my PwC and ex-Unitenian clan. Nothing less that I would comment, the dinners were Perfect!
Then Eid came. I spent a week in Hometown. Luckily, my bro flight was on a week after Syawal. So after a year been abroad, this is my first Eid with my family.
The month of Eid would not be perfect without Raya Open house. Last Saturday, I went to Aunty Jijah’s Open House whom I met during my trip to Europe. Then, I have invited those I knew during the trip to my house.
Oh I’m still waiting for my future employer to arrange the final stage of interview. I went for an assessment last Friday and I am still keeping my fingers crossed that they will arrange the interview to be held this week.
Oh before i forgot, i would like to inform that my article to wales has been published on Harian Metro yesterday. Go and check it out!
(http://www.hmetro.com.my/Current_News/myMetro/Sunday/Ekspresi/20091004121017/Article/indexv_html)
Monday, 7 September 2009
a wHoLE nEw WoRlD
It has been a week since I stepped out from MAS plane in Malaysia. It feels great to be back!
There no words that can describes my feelings that time. The first place that I went at KLIA was the washroom. Finally, there are water hose in the toilet! Hahahaah
I was so happy to see both of parents waiting for me outside the arrival gate. Hugs and kisses were given and we headed straight back home.
After a year being abroad, I could see there are lots of new improvements in Malaysia. Unfortunately, I don’t really like the weather here. It’s humid and dry. Unlike in UK, even though it’s summer, it’s still breezy.
I’m currently waiting for a GLC company to call me for the final selection process as I’ve gotten the conditional offer when I attended the interview which was conducted in London. Fingers crossed that I could nail it very well.
I had a tremendous time spent in UK especially the finale getaway trip to Wales. It was my final week in UK. I went with friends whom I knew from Kelana Convoy. Luckily, there was a guy in that trip. Hehehe. Felt safer :)
Even though we just knew each other for 2 months, I felt that we knew each other since ages. Thanks to Kadir who droves the car ..you’re the man :)..At least u’ve made my final dream came true. We’ve covered North, West and Southern part of Wales in 4 days! Thanks to Kadir, Hanis and Lina..I REALLY HAD A GREAT TIME IN WALES!! Among the places I went in Wales, I totally fall in love with Rhossili Bay in Swansea and Newgale!
How I wish that a guy could bend on his knee and proposed me to marry him at that place. HAHAHA.
I LOVE NATURES..I hope that someone who is going to spend his whole life has the same interest with me. So that we could spend more time together seeing all those beautiful places that has cliffs, beaches and waterfall!
I always wanted to go to Wales. So in a year, I’ve covered, 3 parts of UK which are England (North-Newcastle, South-Sussex and West- Liverpool), Wales and Scotland!
Now, I have to get back the real world and build my career in Malaysia. Anyway, I hope that I can still get the happiness (that I used to have in UK) in Malaysia. :)
There no words that can describes my feelings that time. The first place that I went at KLIA was the washroom. Finally, there are water hose in the toilet! Hahahaah
I was so happy to see both of parents waiting for me outside the arrival gate. Hugs and kisses were given and we headed straight back home.
After a year being abroad, I could see there are lots of new improvements in Malaysia. Unfortunately, I don’t really like the weather here. It’s humid and dry. Unlike in UK, even though it’s summer, it’s still breezy.
I’m currently waiting for a GLC company to call me for the final selection process as I’ve gotten the conditional offer when I attended the interview which was conducted in London. Fingers crossed that I could nail it very well.
I had a tremendous time spent in UK especially the finale getaway trip to Wales. It was my final week in UK. I went with friends whom I knew from Kelana Convoy. Luckily, there was a guy in that trip. Hehehe. Felt safer :)
Even though we just knew each other for 2 months, I felt that we knew each other since ages. Thanks to Kadir who droves the car ..you’re the man :)..At least u’ve made my final dream came true. We’ve covered North, West and Southern part of Wales in 4 days! Thanks to Kadir, Hanis and Lina..I REALLY HAD A GREAT TIME IN WALES!! Among the places I went in Wales, I totally fall in love with Rhossili Bay in Swansea and Newgale!
How I wish that a guy could bend on his knee and proposed me to marry him at that place. HAHAHA.
I LOVE NATURES..I hope that someone who is going to spend his whole life has the same interest with me. So that we could spend more time together seeing all those beautiful places that has cliffs, beaches and waterfall!
I always wanted to go to Wales. So in a year, I’ve covered, 3 parts of UK which are England (North-Newcastle, South-Sussex and West- Liverpool), Wales and Scotland!
Now, I have to get back the real world and build my career in Malaysia. Anyway, I hope that I can still get the happiness (that I used to have in UK) in Malaysia. :)
Monday, 13 July 2009
The journey of happiness
20th June 2009 – Day 1:
Departed from Hyde Park, London at 9am and this was my first time got boarded into a double decker coach. Yes, we do have lots of double decker busses in UK, but it’s quite rare to have those for travelling coach.
It was 70 of us. At that time, my friends and I only had an ice breaking session with Vk, Thiong (both from Saudi) and Ana and Fara (Both from Malaysia). They were among new friends we knew on the first day.
The weather was breezy and lots of chatting was going on at the time while waiting for our luggage to be boarded into the bus. I was quite surprised to see most of the people who joined the tour were from Malaysia! I mean, they came all the way from Malaysia just for this trip.
It took us 2 hrs 45 minutes to reach Dover where we entered English Channel Tunnel. I was impressed with the technology as we used a train to cross the English Channel in an hour’s time.
Yeay..We have reached Calais (France) at 12.25pm (UK time) and as we reached France, we were instructed by the tour manager (Khairul) to add 1 hour in our watches as there was a timing difference between UK and European countries.
After an hour ride, we arrived in Brussels. Never thought that we were only in Belgium just to buy the chocolate. Sigh. Similar to Netherlands, Belgium people used Flemish. They do speak in French too. Suddenly, I realized that I should learn French as my third language.
Belgium is famous for its chocolates and beer. As we passed by the highways, we noted that there were lots of wind bines.
After a long journey (Approx 5 hrs), finally we reached Netherlands .
21st June 2009-Day 2
Left the camp site and headed to Cheese Village in Netherlands. It was an opportunity to see how Dutch makes their own clog! I was amazed because it was all HAND-MADE. They used this clogs in all occasions and it symbolized where they are from. Hence, they have different patterns that symbolized their origins. Isn’t that amazing? Oh, we were informed that if a guy wanted to propose a girl, he has to make a pair of clogs with 72 craved flowers. Now, that is what I called EFFORTS babeh! :)
Besides that, we also saw the cheese making demonstration.
After the photography sessions took place, we headed to Volendam. On our way to Volendam, we stopped at 1 traditional wind mill. Volendam is a fishing village and famous for its souvenirs.
Later on, we were brought to Amsterdam for Canal ride (gosh, highly not recommended!). Went to Van Gough museum, Hard Rock Café and Red Light District.
22nd June 2009- Day 3
At 11.50am, we arrived in Frankfurt,Germany. This country is famous for its luxurious cars such as Porsche, BMW and Volkswagen. Germany is the second largest country in Europe and it’s a roman ruler originated country. Guess what, there is no speed limit at autobahns (Highways).
Went to Frankfurt Airport, Central Bank of Europe, Romar square and River Main.
23rd June 2009- Day 4
Departed from Frankfurt at 10.30am and reached in Fussen about an hour later. It’s a place where Mr. Disney got his idea for DISNEYLAND. This place has 2 beautiful castles.
Left Fussen in the evening and 4 hours later, we reached our campsite in Austria.
24th June 2009- Day 5
The view from this campsite was breath taking as the campsite is facing the northern part of Swiss Alps. We went to Innsbruck the morning and Austria is famous for Swarovski.
Day 6- 15..to be continued...
Departed from Hyde Park, London at 9am and this was my first time got boarded into a double decker coach. Yes, we do have lots of double decker busses in UK, but it’s quite rare to have those for travelling coach.
It was 70 of us. At that time, my friends and I only had an ice breaking session with Vk, Thiong (both from Saudi) and Ana and Fara (Both from Malaysia). They were among new friends we knew on the first day.
The weather was breezy and lots of chatting was going on at the time while waiting for our luggage to be boarded into the bus. I was quite surprised to see most of the people who joined the tour were from Malaysia! I mean, they came all the way from Malaysia just for this trip.
It took us 2 hrs 45 minutes to reach Dover where we entered English Channel Tunnel. I was impressed with the technology as we used a train to cross the English Channel in an hour’s time.
Yeay..We have reached Calais (France) at 12.25pm (UK time) and as we reached France, we were instructed by the tour manager (Khairul) to add 1 hour in our watches as there was a timing difference between UK and European countries.
After an hour ride, we arrived in Brussels. Never thought that we were only in Belgium just to buy the chocolate. Sigh. Similar to Netherlands, Belgium people used Flemish. They do speak in French too. Suddenly, I realized that I should learn French as my third language.
Belgium is famous for its chocolates and beer. As we passed by the highways, we noted that there were lots of wind bines.
After a long journey (Approx 5 hrs), finally we reached Netherlands .
21st June 2009-Day 2
Left the camp site and headed to Cheese Village in Netherlands. It was an opportunity to see how Dutch makes their own clog! I was amazed because it was all HAND-MADE. They used this clogs in all occasions and it symbolized where they are from. Hence, they have different patterns that symbolized their origins. Isn’t that amazing? Oh, we were informed that if a guy wanted to propose a girl, he has to make a pair of clogs with 72 craved flowers. Now, that is what I called EFFORTS babeh! :)
Besides that, we also saw the cheese making demonstration.
After the photography sessions took place, we headed to Volendam. On our way to Volendam, we stopped at 1 traditional wind mill. Volendam is a fishing village and famous for its souvenirs.
Later on, we were brought to Amsterdam for Canal ride (gosh, highly not recommended!). Went to Van Gough museum, Hard Rock Café and Red Light District.
22nd June 2009- Day 3
At 11.50am, we arrived in Frankfurt,Germany. This country is famous for its luxurious cars such as Porsche, BMW and Volkswagen. Germany is the second largest country in Europe and it’s a roman ruler originated country. Guess what, there is no speed limit at autobahns (Highways).
Went to Frankfurt Airport, Central Bank of Europe, Romar square and River Main.
23rd June 2009- Day 4
Departed from Frankfurt at 10.30am and reached in Fussen about an hour later. It’s a place where Mr. Disney got his idea for DISNEYLAND. This place has 2 beautiful castles.
Left Fussen in the evening and 4 hours later, we reached our campsite in Austria.
24th June 2009- Day 5
The view from this campsite was breath taking as the campsite is facing the northern part of Swiss Alps. We went to Innsbruck the morning and Austria is famous for Swarovski.
Day 6- 15..to be continued...
Monday, 15 June 2009
Detour or Exit
I’m standing in the middle of a road which has 2 sign board showing signs of detour and exit.
Half part of me wants me to choose detour while another part wants me to choose exit road. Actually i wanted to come home so badly and work for this company in Malaysia. But it's all still uncertain as i need to undergo the final stage of interview which the session will be conducted by the directors.
Yes, i do miss Malaysia a lot but i was hoping that i could secure a job here as the culture and the working exposure are totally difference.But bottom line is, it's all about $$$..I mean the cost that i need to bear for my visa extension.
Even though when I first came here, all I wanted was to stay and find a work here, but with the current financial turmoil, there is not much of hope left.
However, last week when I’ve paid a visit to All Saints International office, I read statistic from Top 100 graduate employer companies and below is the statistic for sectors that shown positive trend for quarter period of 2009.
The Financial Institutions has surprisingly shown an inward movement despite of the financial turmoil that currently has an adverse effect to UK economy.
However, the green grass in other sectors may not always have the same scenario for other industries. The graph illustrated below shown an adverse effect of the job opportunities in UK market for the quarter period of 2009.
It has been everyone wishes to find a proper job in UK as the working experience is very valuable to our career progression. However, before a decision is made, there are few considerations that we need to be aware of such as;
• Cost analysis (Ensure that the benefits outweigh the costs incurred)
• Visa requirements (Comprised of Qualification perspective and Financial
perspective)
• Leaving your loved ones behind (Parents, siblings, relatives and friends)
• Impossible to get hitched up before 30.
My parents has insisted me to prolong my stay in UK and there is nothing much that I can do as I’m going for my Europe trip this weekend and shall be back in Manchester again by 4th July.
Insyallah, by then everything will be clearer.
Hope Allah will lead me to the right path. Amen.
Half part of me wants me to choose detour while another part wants me to choose exit road. Actually i wanted to come home so badly and work for this company in Malaysia. But it's all still uncertain as i need to undergo the final stage of interview which the session will be conducted by the directors.
Yes, i do miss Malaysia a lot but i was hoping that i could secure a job here as the culture and the working exposure are totally difference.But bottom line is, it's all about $$$..I mean the cost that i need to bear for my visa extension.
Even though when I first came here, all I wanted was to stay and find a work here, but with the current financial turmoil, there is not much of hope left.
However, last week when I’ve paid a visit to All Saints International office, I read statistic from Top 100 graduate employer companies and below is the statistic for sectors that shown positive trend for quarter period of 2009.
The Financial Institutions has surprisingly shown an inward movement despite of the financial turmoil that currently has an adverse effect to UK economy.
However, the green grass in other sectors may not always have the same scenario for other industries. The graph illustrated below shown an adverse effect of the job opportunities in UK market for the quarter period of 2009.
It has been everyone wishes to find a proper job in UK as the working experience is very valuable to our career progression. However, before a decision is made, there are few considerations that we need to be aware of such as;
• Cost analysis (Ensure that the benefits outweigh the costs incurred)
• Visa requirements (Comprised of Qualification perspective and Financial
perspective)
• Leaving your loved ones behind (Parents, siblings, relatives and friends)
• Impossible to get hitched up before 30.
My parents has insisted me to prolong my stay in UK and there is nothing much that I can do as I’m going for my Europe trip this weekend and shall be back in Manchester again by 4th July.
Insyallah, by then everything will be clearer.
Hope Allah will lead me to the right path. Amen.
Friday, 12 June 2009
5Q's in Choosing a Life Partner..
Hey guys,
M back..FREE FROM EXAMS and it means that i have more time to update my blog. Nway, i've received this interesting article from a friend of mine and i found that this article is really relevant to people who are still havent found the love of their lives.
FINDING AND KEEPING A LIFE PARTNER
by Dov Heller, M.A.
When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Miss. Right!
If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: 'We're in love'; I believe this is the ..1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound 'not politically correct', there's a profound truth here.
Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: 'You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone'; You need a lot more!!! Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.
QUESTION ..1: Do we share a common life purpose?
Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a
common life purpose.
Two things can happen in a marriage:
(1) You can grow together
(2)you can grow apart.
50% of the people out there are growing apart.To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life!Bottom line; marry someone who wants the same thing.
QUESTION ..2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?
This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust i.e.. trust that I won't get 'punished'; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings.
A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.
QUESTION ..3: Is he/she a mensch?
A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as 'someone who is always striving to be good and do the right ';. So ask about your significant other: What do they
do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement.
There are essentially two types of people in the world:
(1) People who are dedicated to personal growth.
(2) People who are dedicated to seeking comfort.
Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.
QUESTION ..4: How does he/she treat other people?
The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure.
Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self absorbed? To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people
whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc.. How do they treat their parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation? If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything; can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that someone, who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as
well.
QUESTION ..5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?
Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to 'improve'; them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it: 'You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for the worse' If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them. In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with
your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating; to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself trouble because you didn't do your homework.
Another perspective...
There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance.. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not going anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you.
Pay attention...Which ones lift and which ones lean?
Which ones encourage and which ones discourage?
Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill?
When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse?
Which ones dont appreciate you?
Which ones make you feel good, praises you, boosts you with loving and
caring words or annotations.
The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.
An African proverb states, 'Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye'; Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low selfâ€'esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important.
Do you bring out the best in each other?
Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control?
What do you bring to the relationship?
Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?
You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.
If you develop selfâ€'esteem, spiritual discernment, and 'a life'; you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.
WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG IS:
1. TRUST
2. COMMUNICATION
3. INTIMACY
4. A SENSE OF HUMOR
5. SHARING TASKS
6. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes,etc.)
7. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS
8. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE
9.GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENT
10. CONCERN AND CARE FOR YOUR LOVER IN YOUR OWN WAYS.
If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will replace.
M back..FREE FROM EXAMS and it means that i have more time to update my blog. Nway, i've received this interesting article from a friend of mine and i found that this article is really relevant to people who are still havent found the love of their lives.
FINDING AND KEEPING A LIFE PARTNER
by Dov Heller, M.A.
When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Miss. Right!
If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: 'We're in love'; I believe this is the ..1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound 'not politically correct', there's a profound truth here.
Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: 'You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone'; You need a lot more!!! Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.
QUESTION ..1: Do we share a common life purpose?
Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a
common life purpose.
Two things can happen in a marriage:
(1) You can grow together
(2)you can grow apart.
50% of the people out there are growing apart.To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life!Bottom line; marry someone who wants the same thing.
QUESTION ..2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?
This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust i.e.. trust that I won't get 'punished'; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings.
A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.
QUESTION ..3: Is he/she a mensch?
A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as 'someone who is always striving to be good and do the right ';. So ask about your significant other: What do they
do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement.
There are essentially two types of people in the world:
(1) People who are dedicated to personal growth.
(2) People who are dedicated to seeking comfort.
Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.
QUESTION ..4: How does he/she treat other people?
The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure.
Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self absorbed? To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people
whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc.. How do they treat their parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation? If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything; can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that someone, who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as
well.
QUESTION ..5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?
Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to 'improve'; them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it: 'You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for the worse' If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them. In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with
your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating; to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself trouble because you didn't do your homework.
Another perspective...
There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance.. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not going anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you.
Pay attention...Which ones lift and which ones lean?
Which ones encourage and which ones discourage?
Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill?
When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse?
Which ones dont appreciate you?
Which ones make you feel good, praises you, boosts you with loving and
caring words or annotations.
The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.
An African proverb states, 'Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye'; Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low selfâ€'esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important.
Do you bring out the best in each other?
Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control?
What do you bring to the relationship?
Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?
You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.
If you develop selfâ€'esteem, spiritual discernment, and 'a life'; you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.
WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG IS:
1. TRUST
2. COMMUNICATION
3. INTIMACY
4. A SENSE OF HUMOR
5. SHARING TASKS
6. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes,etc.)
7. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS
8. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE
9.GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENT
10. CONCERN AND CARE FOR YOUR LOVER IN YOUR OWN WAYS.
If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will replace.
Monday, 4 May 2009
It's all about May!
Okay..i;ve started the month of May by enrolling to Sugden Fitness Centre with a guy fren. hehehe.Thank god that he also wants to lose some weights..that makes us even.Both of us need to work out before we come back to Msia.
The next day, i went to watch WOLVERINE-Original with my girlfriends and guyfren (my gym buddy). My jaw was opened all the time as i was mesmerized with Hugh Jackman's body.He has a very sexy top..still smiling untill now.hahaha Girls..
Oh..after watching the movie, we went for Hot Choc drinking session @ Costa Rica in Piccadilly. After few hrs of gossiping, we went home.Owh, it was actually a birthday of my Guyfren and due to that i've cooked some meals for him.So he had lunch at our house before we left to watch the movie. And after that, we had Tiramisu dessert for tea, guess Hot chocolate was not enuff for everyone.
We watched Friends together while enjoying my 'masterpiece'.Glad to see that he was enjoying every single piece of it. I've even make another tiramisu for him to bring home. It was a birthday gift from me to him..wasnt it sweet?hehehe nah, i just want to give something which he cant get from anywhere else. A very special gift indeed..
I've enjoyed being his freind..enjoying the companion and the laughters we had. Sad that in few months time, i shall be going back to Msia and he stays here until Oct. Hopefully, we'll keep in touch when both of us in Msia.
aHA..and today, something interesting has happens to me. Manage to talk to my exschoolmate when i was in primary school.We skyped for 2-3hrs...Miss him a lot. We used to chat long time ago, but then since i flew to UK..we have lost contact.He is still the same Rizal that i knew..and the best part was when i called him and i didnt mention my name, he can actually recognised my voice without me introducing myself..He's still single though..nice chap..anyone who;s interested, gimme a buzz, maybe i can pair u guys :)...
Erm..Anyway, as May has come, it means that it only a month left before i sits for my FINAL EXAMS in June..Chill..Cold and goosebumps everywhere..Still paddling ..
Pls pray for my success as i need to nail these 2 papers in order for me to secure a job with B** :)
Until now~Ciao...
The next day, i went to watch WOLVERINE-Original with my girlfriends and guyfren (my gym buddy). My jaw was opened all the time as i was mesmerized with Hugh Jackman's body.He has a very sexy top..still smiling untill now.hahaha Girls..
Oh..after watching the movie, we went for Hot Choc drinking session @ Costa Rica in Piccadilly. After few hrs of gossiping, we went home.Owh, it was actually a birthday of my Guyfren and due to that i've cooked some meals for him.So he had lunch at our house before we left to watch the movie. And after that, we had Tiramisu dessert for tea, guess Hot chocolate was not enuff for everyone.
We watched Friends together while enjoying my 'masterpiece'.Glad to see that he was enjoying every single piece of it. I've even make another tiramisu for him to bring home. It was a birthday gift from me to him..wasnt it sweet?hehehe nah, i just want to give something which he cant get from anywhere else. A very special gift indeed..
I've enjoyed being his freind..enjoying the companion and the laughters we had. Sad that in few months time, i shall be going back to Msia and he stays here until Oct. Hopefully, we'll keep in touch when both of us in Msia.
aHA..and today, something interesting has happens to me. Manage to talk to my exschoolmate when i was in primary school.We skyped for 2-3hrs...Miss him a lot. We used to chat long time ago, but then since i flew to UK..we have lost contact.He is still the same Rizal that i knew..and the best part was when i called him and i didnt mention my name, he can actually recognised my voice without me introducing myself..He's still single though..nice chap..anyone who;s interested, gimme a buzz, maybe i can pair u guys :)...
Erm..Anyway, as May has come, it means that it only a month left before i sits for my FINAL EXAMS in June..Chill..Cold and goosebumps everywhere..Still paddling ..
Pls pray for my success as i need to nail these 2 papers in order for me to secure a job with B** :)
Until now~Ciao...
Thursday, 23 April 2009
Chill..Cold..Nervous and finally Flu!
After not being on stage for 11 years, i finally got the chance to perform again. I thought i would have the confidence to face the crowd. However, my assumption was wrong. I was too nervous and even when we had rehearsal for 2 times, my hands were starts to shake.
Goosebumps were everywhere.Even though the performace was not that great, all of us DID had FUN. Glad to be part of the team.
A week past by and i felt sicked.Got flu since yesterday. Actually during the practices and rehearsal, i managed to find my gedikmate. He always said cute things and make me laughed. We were gossiping, bitching and laughing abt ppl's performances.hahaah.And now, no more practices, no more rehearsals, i kinda miss his presence.
Really grateful that i've met him now..He is my best Boyfriend ever! (Not that special bf ya..dun get me wrong)..:)
Monday, 13 April 2009
Small changes can make a big difference.
{ This is me before i came to UK..i have lost 8 Kgs so far andi still need to lose few more Kgs..}
I NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT and things that i need to do..
The most effective way to do this is to :
1)reduce the amount of calories you eat
2)increase your levels of activity.
The healthiest way to lose weight is neither crash diets nor bursts of exercise. The body likes slow changes in terms of food and exercise. Hence, we need to change gradually day by day.
As result to that, I'm going to jog for 20mins at Withworth Park at 8am tomorrow.
There is 1 finding in the website that really shocked me.
One extra biscuit a week can lead you to gain 5lb a year – cut that biscuit out
of your diet and you'll lose the same amount.
of your diet and you'll lose the same amount.
(So, strictly no biscuit people!)
Swapping full-fat milk for semi-skimmed or making time for breakfast each morning than a diet that sets rules for all foods. I'm already doing this.
Since I'm a student now, i cant afford to go to Gym, the best cost-free exercise would be jog for 20 mins at the park which is opposite my house.I've been to the park since i'm here, so why dont i start to do it today! Because an even light exercise such as a short 20 minute walk will be beneficial if done most days of the week.Every single time you exercise more than usual, you burn calories and fat.
Reduce your calorie intake
Based on BMI calculation, M overweight and obviously i can't continue with my current eating habits. (Just had Magnum ice cream this eve)-too bad.Only have that once in fortnight.It's not possible to reduce body fat while eating lots of food, cakes and sweets. This doesn't mean you can never have any treats, but you need to learn how to limit these foods to small quantities - say, for special occasions.
Based on BMI calculation, M overweight and obviously i can't continue with my current eating habits. (Just had Magnum ice cream this eve)-too bad.Only have that once in fortnight.It's not possible to reduce body fat while eating lots of food, cakes and sweets. This doesn't mean you can never have any treats, but you need to learn how to limit these foods to small quantities - say, for special occasions.
Below are ways to reduce calorie intake without having to alter your diet significantly.
1)Replace fizzy drinks and fruit cordials with water.
2)Swap whole milk for semi-skimmed, or semi-skimmed for skimmed.
3)Eat less lunch than usual. For example, make your own sandwich and limit the use of margarine/butter and full-fat mayonnaise (store-bought sandwiches often contain both).
4)Stop taking sugar in tea and coffee. Okay.. definitely my coffee will taste weirder tomorrow.
5)Have smaller portions of the food you enjoy.
6)Avoid having a second helping at dinner.
7)Cut out unhealthy treats such as confectionary, sugary biscuits and crisps between meals.
2)Swap whole milk for semi-skimmed, or semi-skimmed for skimmed.
3)Eat less lunch than usual. For example, make your own sandwich and limit the use of margarine/butter and full-fat mayonnaise (store-bought sandwiches often contain both).
4)Stop taking sugar in tea and coffee. Okay.. definitely my coffee will taste weirder tomorrow.
5)Have smaller portions of the food you enjoy.
6)Avoid having a second helping at dinner.
7)Cut out unhealthy treats such as confectionary, sugary biscuits and crisps between meals.
My ideal weight 62kg..8kg in 4 months time..is it possible?Need to be in a good shape when m going back to KL.So both of my missions will be accomplished. (First, would be my ACCA la kan).hehehe. LOVE?Nah, maybe i will find someone at my future workplace.Amen :D
Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus
I know that u cant actually express what ur feelings from SMS. But actually, the reader should know how to differentiate a person who is upset or happy.
I;ve heard of this book for a quite long time but, due to the work commitment, i was unable to have a look at it. After the heartaching incident happened this afternoon, it has motivates me to google and search for the contents of the book and here are the summary:
a) The differences of need:
-Men primarily need:
1.Trust
2.Acceptance
3.Admiration
4.Approval
5.Appreciation
6.Encouragement
- Women on the other hand need:
1.Caring
2.Understanding
3.Respect
4.Devotion
5.Validation
6.Reassurance
b)Scoring Points with the Opposite Sex
-Here are some suggestions that Gray offers:
1.Give her a hug
2.Practice listening and asking questions
3.Surprise her for no special reason with flowers
4.Make her dinner
5.Compliment her looks
6.Validate her feelings when she is upset
7.When she talks to you, put down the magazine or turn off the TV and give her your full
attention
8.Wash before having sex
9.Wash her car
10.Take her side when she is upset with someone
Here are some ways that women can score with men:
1.He makes a mistake and she doesn’t say “I told you so” or offer advice.
2.He disappoints her and she doesn’t punish him.
3.He gets lost while driving and she doesn’t make a big deal out of it.
4.When he withdraws she doesn’t make him feel guilty
5.She is happy to see him when he gets home.
c)How to Communicate Difficult Feelings
Write a letter to express both feelings.
FINALLY...
d)How to Ask for Support and Get It
If you are not getting the support that you want and need in a relationship, the main culprit may be simply because you’re not asking. Asking for love and support is essential to the success of any relationship.
I;ve heard of this book for a quite long time but, due to the work commitment, i was unable to have a look at it. After the heartaching incident happened this afternoon, it has motivates me to google and search for the contents of the book and here are the summary:
a) The differences of need:
-Men primarily need:
1.Trust
2.Acceptance
3.Admiration
4.Approval
5.Appreciation
6.Encouragement
- Women on the other hand need:
1.Caring
2.Understanding
3.Respect
4.Devotion
5.Validation
6.Reassurance
Why We Argue
Common things men and women argue about are money, sex,
decisions, scheduling, values, child rearing, and household responsibilities.
When these discussions and negotiations turn into painful arguments, it is for
one reason — we are not feeling loved.
Most of these arguments occur not
because two people disagree but because either the man feels that the woman
disapproves of his point of view or of him, when in fact she disapproves because
he is not validating her point of view or speaking to her in a caring way. This
leads to an escalating argument rooted in both parties not feeling their needs
being met.
When men and women learn to approve and validate, they will no
longer have to argue. They can instead negotiate differences.
b)Scoring Points with the Opposite Sex
-Here are some suggestions that Gray offers:
1.Give her a hug
2.Practice listening and asking questions
3.Surprise her for no special reason with flowers
4.Make her dinner
5.Compliment her looks
6.Validate her feelings when she is upset
7.When she talks to you, put down the magazine or turn off the TV and give her your full
attention
8.Wash before having sex
9.Wash her car
10.Take her side when she is upset with someone
So what about with men? How can a woman score points with them? Well, it’s
all about appreciation. When a woman verbally tells a man that she appreciates
what he does for her, this scores big points with him.
This works especially
well when a man learns to do many small things for his partner, as we just
discussed. He will feel loved and want to continue to fulfill her resulting in a
cycle of increasing love.
Here are some ways that women can score with men:
1.He makes a mistake and she doesn’t say “I told you so” or offer advice.
2.He disappoints her and she doesn’t punish him.
3.He gets lost while driving and she doesn’t make a big deal out of it.
4.When he withdraws she doesn’t make him feel guilty
5.She is happy to see him when he gets home.
c)How to Communicate Difficult Feelings
Write a letter to express both feelings.
FINALLY...
d)How to Ask for Support and Get It
If you are not getting the support that you want and need in a relationship, the main culprit may be simply because you’re not asking. Asking for love and support is essential to the success of any relationship.
Mimpi..apa maksud nya..
Lately ni, i always had the same people that keeps appearing in my dreams.Last nite aku mimpi, aku terpijak kaca.Habis kaki ku berdarah.then sampai ble terase la aku cabutkan kaca tuh frm my feet.
Actually, aku g rumah kawan aku ni.Mcm pelik coz jln tuh aku biasa lalu..tp sampai2 jer..mak die sambut aku kat pintu rumah die.then aku g dapur..tak perasan aku terjatuh kan gelas..byk la tuh.yg peliknye, aku tak nampak pon gelas tuh kat hujung meja tuh.apa la bersepah2 la kaca tuh..and aku tak perasan, kaki blah kanan terpijak.dan apa lagi..berdarah la.sampai dlm mimpi pon ble rase ngilu kna kaca..
Yg peliknye..dah 2 mlm aku mimpi org tuh sekali ngan mak die.asal ek..sebab aku pk abt org tuh ker.
Pastu since aku sakit kepala arini, tak ble la blaja(Alasan!)hahahaso aku google la tafsiran mimpiku tu kat internet as follow:
Oh ya..aku pnah mimpi kna kejar dgn a group of nuns..lawak kan..
Paderi Jika anda bermimpi melihat Paderi (guru agama/pemuka agama) membaca
kitab, bermakna akan selamat dan bahagia
Kaki Jika anda bermimpi kaki anda mengeluarkan darah yang
kental,
bermakna akan menerima rezeki yang belebihan
Luka -Jika anda bermimpi kena luka hingga keluar darah atau anda banyak
luka-luka dikaki atau tangan, merupakan suatu alamat bahwa anda akan
menerima suatu pemberian dari teman-teman atau akan mendapatkan suatu rezeki dari Tuhan.
Lawak la mimpi2 ni..actually semua ni mainan tido.Yg baik dtg drp DIA dan yg jahat dtg drp kite.
Sunday, 12 April 2009
Kasut tumit tinggi (ala2 sex and the city)
Citer ni menarik..rase nye citer baru kuar kat Astro..
ni the background of the main characters..
Nanu Baharudin sebagai Sofia -Dia ni ala2 carrie la..Age 38, janda yang romantik bekerja dari rumah.sebagai seorang penterjermah novel cinta. Dia popular sebagai penasihat cinta yang memberi nasihat cinta dan perhubungan di ruangan akhbar. Anak die, Mai tak hbs2 nak match make kan mak die ngan somebody.
Datin Norish Karman sebagai Ida- Pelakon yg dah tak laku.heheh Age 38 tahun salah seorang kawan kepada Sofia. Ex husband die is a lawyer,bercerai sebab husband die ada affair.But now husband die nak berbaik semula ngan die la. Owh ada anak nama Amir.Tp si amir ni takde byk dialogue sgt n die tak bercakap ngan mak die.
Amy Mastura sebagai Ros-Si gelabah..very clumsy but she is so sweet.Age 35 tahun dan die pereka fesyen.Tak pernah couple n dating dgn mana2 lelaki.Selalu kna buli ngan boss die (duda ada anak sorang).Aku rase boss die suke kat die.yele, lelaki ni ego sket.sometimes die treat kite badly..tp dlm hati die suke.
Juliana Evans sebagai Mai- Age 17 tahun.Anak Nanu, nak jadi doctor and nak sambung buat medic kat UK.tp tak pnah tgk die bace buku..haha setakat pegang buku conan jer. Die kepo..suke nak match make kan mak die ngan lelaki lain.Oh die kerja kat Baskin robbin nye outlet.
Siti Saleha sebagai Farah- Age 17 tahun, kawan Mai.Satu tempat kerja ngan Mai. Die tak la penting sangat dlm citer ni.hehe
As overall, so far aku dah tgk 8 episode..menarik..a bit cliche gak sometimes..tp suke tul ros tuh.Kelakar.Plus main character die age late 30's..so agak menarik la.
Pastu si nanu tuh..aku rase cantik la..gile suke kat rambut die dlm citer ni.nampak sophisticated tol..oH 1 more thing..never say sorry to a guy!hehehe.
Tgk la citer ni..best :)
Friday, 10 April 2009
Things that i want to buy..kekekek
4 months to go and i shall be back to MALAYSIA..and here are the list on things that i need to buy..
1. Tie racks - lots of ties for my uncles and cousins.
2. Bedlinen..plan to get Laura Ashley..for myself and my sister.We can keep it for our big day.
3. Designer's office suit..I just love UK office attire..it looks so professional.
4. Radley HandBag- well, i really need to have a good handbag for myself.
5. Queen's Anne- ppl are saying that it's cheap here..so might get 1 for myself.
and the list can never ends..
hahaha
but there is a prob..i dont know what shld i get for my aunties...Maybe i can use some of my friends brilliant ideas on what to get for ppl in Msia..
1. Tie racks - lots of ties for my uncles and cousins.
2. Bedlinen..plan to get Laura Ashley..for myself and my sister.We can keep it for our big day.
3. Designer's office suit..I just love UK office attire..it looks so professional.
4. Radley HandBag- well, i really need to have a good handbag for myself.
5. Queen's Anne- ppl are saying that it's cheap here..so might get 1 for myself.
and the list can never ends..
hahaha
but there is a prob..i dont know what shld i get for my aunties...Maybe i can use some of my friends brilliant ideas on what to get for ppl in Msia..
Preparation before it strikes again!
IT'S HIS LOST, NOT MINE!
I'M TOO GOOD FOR HIM AND I DESERVE SOMEONE BETTER!
LOVE YOURSELF MORE BEFORE YOU LOVE A MAN!
ANDA ADALAH WANITA TERHEBAT DAN ALLAH HANYA AKAN TEMUKAN ANDA DGN LELAKI TERHEBAT JUGA..
Those are the inspirational words i've gotten from a friend.Actually she is like a big sister to me. We always consult each other when we meet road blocks in our life.
Oh ya, there was 1 episode of Al Kuliyyah that i;ve watched in youtube and it was really soothing and after i've watched it, i felt calmer. But knowing the fact that my BESTFREN is going to come soon, it has bring me back to d depression mode.
I just need to chill and cross the line that i have with that guy. From now onwards, i MUST only treat him as a fren and we shall use AKU KAU in our conversation. I know it might sounds harsh but this how things work here. If not, i will fall into his fake innocent words.
I just hope that the man which i'm going to meet will always bring a smile to my face and shall never make me go back to the old world that i;ve used to be.
Wish me luck!!!
Tuesday, 7 April 2009
Confession..confession..
Yesterday was the day which i couldn't tolerate to myself.
After i've squezzed my head, trying to absorb the audit chapter (Audit reporting),suddenly
i felt that i was in the other world.
I couldn't concentrate after 2 hours stuck my butt on the JL library. Then, i've decided to pack my stuffs and went straight home.
Instead of taking the bus, i've chosen to take a walk.At least i could do some thinking and YES, i did find an answer. Finally, i've found the culprit who has make me become like this.
After i;ve to talk to my best GF, i've reached the conclusion which was to cut all the connection that i have with that person. I dont know that how come he's still significance in my life after all the tears i've wasted on him.
No point of wasting ur time to someone who is not worth it..While i was studying this morning, i listened to MC song and it really captured my heart to post this in my blog..
Enjoy the song..:D
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gfqg5v5rVQk
After i've squezzed my head, trying to absorb the audit chapter (Audit reporting),suddenly
i felt that i was in the other world.
I couldn't concentrate after 2 hours stuck my butt on the JL library. Then, i've decided to pack my stuffs and went straight home.
Instead of taking the bus, i've chosen to take a walk.At least i could do some thinking and YES, i did find an answer. Finally, i've found the culprit who has make me become like this.
After i;ve to talk to my best GF, i've reached the conclusion which was to cut all the connection that i have with that person. I dont know that how come he's still significance in my life after all the tears i've wasted on him.
No point of wasting ur time to someone who is not worth it..While i was studying this morning, i listened to MC song and it really captured my heart to post this in my blog..
Enjoy the song..:D
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gfqg5v5rVQk
M fully okay now...
Saturday, 4 April 2009
Interviews..
Last weekend i have attended few interview sessions with reputable companies in London. The positions are for Msia position back in KL.
Eventhough, most of the responds were positive, i still have to go through another stage in Malaysia.Sigh, it's still uncertain in other way..2 out of 4 companies i;ve attended said that there will be a phone interview in 2-4 weeks time.
Gosh, i always got stunned when i talk to people on the phone. I would prefer to have an interview session face to face. Well, it's the employer's call..i cant do anything much.
Anyway, hope i can nail 1 job ..Amin.
Eventhough, most of the responds were positive, i still have to go through another stage in Malaysia.Sigh, it's still uncertain in other way..2 out of 4 companies i;ve attended said that there will be a phone interview in 2-4 weeks time.
Gosh, i always got stunned when i talk to people on the phone. I would prefer to have an interview session face to face. Well, it's the employer's call..i cant do anything much.
Anyway, hope i can nail 1 job ..Amin.
Thursday, 2 April 2009
Would it be a sin to like someone?
Something came up and my feelings suddenly grew back to where it used to be.
I dont know whether is this a right thing to do. But i'm not the type of person who
can keep my feelings to myself.That is the reason that i'm posting this
to my blog.
It all started when i viewed his facebook and my jaw dropped when i saw his recent picture.
Why did i viewed his facebook?I also cant find an answer for it. Our relationships have been ups and downs for a lot number of time and whenever something turned bad, later on we will get patched up again..and things gets better.
But it will get worst again when i shoot him with L questions. What should i do?
I dont want to ruin this moment again..i just want to go with the flow and wait for the sign from God.And definitely i'm going to open my options too.
I dont know whether is this a right thing to do. But i'm not the type of person who
can keep my feelings to myself.That is the reason that i'm posting this
to my blog.
It all started when i viewed his facebook and my jaw dropped when i saw his recent picture.
Why did i viewed his facebook?I also cant find an answer for it. Our relationships have been ups and downs for a lot number of time and whenever something turned bad, later on we will get patched up again..and things gets better.
But it will get worst again when i shoot him with L questions. What should i do?
I dont want to ruin this moment again..i just want to go with the flow and wait for the sign from God.And definitely i'm going to open my options too.
Sunday, 8 March 2009
All About Football...
I have watched a football tournament at Salford between Malaysian guys in UK. I never thought that cheering while watching them playing would be FUN.I think there were 8 teams and the only team that i’ve enjoyed watching was Kickers. It was because, I knew few guys who were on the team.Or maybe i also like the team’s name.
Even though the weather was extremely cold, cheering and having the adrenaline rushed in my body when they scored goals make me felt warmer.
Met new people and they were nice..quite bubbly and funny too. Even though there were things that happened that makes me felt upset, the new friends I’ve met and the jokes made the players have healed the wound at that time.
Feel lucky to have ‘crazy’ people around me...hehehehe
Even though the weather was extremely cold, cheering and having the adrenaline rushed in my body when they scored goals make me felt warmer.
Met new people and they were nice..quite bubbly and funny too. Even though there were things that happened that makes me felt upset, the new friends I’ve met and the jokes made the players have healed the wound at that time.
Feel lucky to have ‘crazy’ people around me...hehehehe
RoAd BlOck anD An INtErChAnGe ShUtTlE is NeEdEd!
Sometimes when the time comes, I realised that actions can be deceiving. Then, i would think that maybe i have to take an interchange shuttle or maybe do i need to wait for my usual shuttle to bring me for a ride.
Since it’s going to be spring season soon, I guess when the weather change, many other things happened in my life would change too. Even though, I felt that my presence was no longer needed, I have met lots of interesting people in my life. Life must goes on.
I’m the type of person who cherishes the friendship utmost, but if they have treated me badly by ignoring my presence while i was like 5 steps away from them, i guess this is the end.
Maybe they have found their wings to spread and able to fly alone now...Let them be.
As for me, life is like a roller-coaster. 1 second you would feel that you’re on the top of the world and 1 second, you would feel that you’re at the bottom of the world.
Yeah, having ‘adik-beradik’ would be a good thing here but if a cold treatment was given; I guess I would just rest my case and meet new interesting people.
Sometimes, being too supportive,warm and nice to people can makes people to take advantage on you..
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Since it’s going to be spring season soon, I guess when the weather change, many other things happened in my life would change too. Even though, I felt that my presence was no longer needed, I have met lots of interesting people in my life. Life must goes on.
I’m the type of person who cherishes the friendship utmost, but if they have treated me badly by ignoring my presence while i was like 5 steps away from them, i guess this is the end.
Maybe they have found their wings to spread and able to fly alone now...Let them be.
As for me, life is like a roller-coaster. 1 second you would feel that you’re on the top of the world and 1 second, you would feel that you’re at the bottom of the world.
Yeah, having ‘adik-beradik’ would be a good thing here but if a cold treatment was given; I guess I would just rest my case and meet new interesting people.
Sometimes, being too supportive,warm and nice to people can makes people to take advantage on you..
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Wednesday, 4 March 2009
DEpReSsEd,CoNfUsEd ANd HeArTbRoKeN¬
There are so many reasons that make me loves facebook. I bumped into my school friends who I used to know back in my secondary school. Actually, the only reason I can still remember her is that she is pretty (not that I am lesbian) and has a pair of beautiful eyes.
After few minutes chatting in facebook, we begun adding our YM address and continue chatting in YM. Sadly, she could not remember me. Backed in my school, I was very shy and low profile person. I am very grateful with PwC because it has turned me 360 degree.
Let me quote what my MMU boss said to me “Hi Nur, good to see you again. Actually, I was very impressed with you during your interview session. You are so bubbly and that is the type of person we are looking for. Hope you will have a great time working with us”. I should give the credit to PwC since it has taught me to blend myself well to the new environment for each of the assignments.
Oh back to the story, that girl is happily married now and has 2 adorable kids (a boy and girl). Her life is so perfect. I am happy for her. She works with OCBC Puchong in Marketing Department even though she has a degree in accounting. Sometimes people used to work in a different line, which I believe it is good as we can actually equip ourselves with other knowledge and this will makes us more saleable in the market.
When I heard about her stories, I was actually quite envy, as I do not even have a perfect life (not yet). Being 27 and all I have are career and education, would not complete me as a successful person.
Life is unfair especially to me. Even though people may think that I am a career minded person, sometimes I do think that I need a man and need kids to fill the colours in my life.
I used to like someone before. I have waited for him for 5 years but end up he felt that he is not GOOD enough for me and he even said that it is his fault. He scared that if he decides to be in a relationship with me, he might end up hurt me badly.
Well, I just do not know what to say. When I read his statement, my heart was full of hate and disappointed. We are not in the early 20’s anymore, we are getting older and 27 would be the best age for him to decide whether is the relationship going anywhere.
Finally, I just conclude that he’s just not that into me. Was he?Nah, I just do not bother anymore. To me, if a person really likes you, he will never let you go away from his side.
p/s-My PMS thingy might influence me to write this post.Hicks!
After few minutes chatting in facebook, we begun adding our YM address and continue chatting in YM. Sadly, she could not remember me. Backed in my school, I was very shy and low profile person. I am very grateful with PwC because it has turned me 360 degree.
Let me quote what my MMU boss said to me “Hi Nur, good to see you again. Actually, I was very impressed with you during your interview session. You are so bubbly and that is the type of person we are looking for. Hope you will have a great time working with us”. I should give the credit to PwC since it has taught me to blend myself well to the new environment for each of the assignments.
Oh back to the story, that girl is happily married now and has 2 adorable kids (a boy and girl). Her life is so perfect. I am happy for her. She works with OCBC Puchong in Marketing Department even though she has a degree in accounting. Sometimes people used to work in a different line, which I believe it is good as we can actually equip ourselves with other knowledge and this will makes us more saleable in the market.
When I heard about her stories, I was actually quite envy, as I do not even have a perfect life (not yet). Being 27 and all I have are career and education, would not complete me as a successful person.
Life is unfair especially to me. Even though people may think that I am a career minded person, sometimes I do think that I need a man and need kids to fill the colours in my life.
I used to like someone before. I have waited for him for 5 years but end up he felt that he is not GOOD enough for me and he even said that it is his fault. He scared that if he decides to be in a relationship with me, he might end up hurt me badly.
Well, I just do not know what to say. When I read his statement, my heart was full of hate and disappointed. We are not in the early 20’s anymore, we are getting older and 27 would be the best age for him to decide whether is the relationship going anywhere.
Finally, I just conclude that he’s just not that into me. Was he?Nah, I just do not bother anymore. To me, if a person really likes you, he will never let you go away from his side.
p/s-My PMS thingy might influence me to write this post.Hicks!
Sunday, 1 March 2009
Hypocrisy here and there...
It defines as acting in a manner which it’s contradictory to one’s belief and feelings or expressing false beliefs and opinions in order to conceal one’s real feelings or motives.
In psychology, hypocritical behavior is closely related to the fundamental attribution error: individuals are more likely to explain their own actions by their environment, yet they attribute the actions of others to 'innate characteristics', thus leading towards judging others while justifying ones' own actions.
I have met few people in Manchester that have this characteristic in their life. Maybe it’s how they live to pleased people. But to me, there’s no point of acting hypocrite because in the end, you are lying to yourself and the person which u lied to.
Nobody is perfect in this world, but I believe that we should learn from our mistakes. No point of portraying the angelic sight of you in front of people but deep inside of your heart, it’s full of hatefulness and anger to him or her.
As for me, I hate people who are lying and made lots of excuses. I just couldn’t tolerate with them now. A friendship to me should be full of trustworthy and sincerity.
Oh another thing I have discovered in Manchester, I noticed some of the undergrad kids are quite boastful. I have no idea what makes them behave like this, studying abroad doesn’t make u be at the top of the world. There are still a long way to go and lots of hurdle too.
Seriously there is nothing to be boastful with because you haven’t reach the ultimate goal in your life. Obtaining a degree from an overseas university wouldn’t guarantee you to be a good human being and successful person in your life.
My parents always remind me to be as humble as possible because I’m will not be here without HIS help.
In psychology, hypocritical behavior is closely related to the fundamental attribution error: individuals are more likely to explain their own actions by their environment, yet they attribute the actions of others to 'innate characteristics', thus leading towards judging others while justifying ones' own actions.
I have met few people in Manchester that have this characteristic in their life. Maybe it’s how they live to pleased people. But to me, there’s no point of acting hypocrite because in the end, you are lying to yourself and the person which u lied to.
Nobody is perfect in this world, but I believe that we should learn from our mistakes. No point of portraying the angelic sight of you in front of people but deep inside of your heart, it’s full of hatefulness and anger to him or her.
As for me, I hate people who are lying and made lots of excuses. I just couldn’t tolerate with them now. A friendship to me should be full of trustworthy and sincerity.
Oh another thing I have discovered in Manchester, I noticed some of the undergrad kids are quite boastful. I have no idea what makes them behave like this, studying abroad doesn’t make u be at the top of the world. There are still a long way to go and lots of hurdle too.
Seriously there is nothing to be boastful with because you haven’t reach the ultimate goal in your life. Obtaining a degree from an overseas university wouldn’t guarantee you to be a good human being and successful person in your life.
My parents always remind me to be as humble as possible because I’m will not be here without HIS help.
Friday, 27 February 2009
Blissful every single second
Time flies, people changed and people come and go.
The summary of Feb 2009;
The beginning of the month was so stressful and had few emotions broke down.
But thanks to God, it ended well. My results turned to be very good and I was overwhelmed as the hard works paid.
Owh, forget to mentioned that, I have started my part time job at my Business School. My superior and the manager are very supportive and warm. I love my job now..even though the role is too simple which doesn’t require your brain, but I still noticed that I still used some parts of it because in every tasks that u do, u need to have good time management and proper planning.
The job only takes me about 1.5hours-2 hours (Even though we are required to work for 3 hours).
Anyway, I have also received my first salary!!At least I can use some of the money to buy jacket that I have always wanted. Yes, I did buy ZARA coat!Wohooooaaa
Don’t think that I can afford to buy stuffs from ZARA in Malaysia even though I earned RM 4.3k per month.
Oh ya, I managed to patch things up between my sisters in Manchester. Well, being as an eldest sister to them, I couldn’t run away when someone ask for a help. Luckily, the confrontation ended well..and the bond between us grows stronger.
Erm, When we faced difficulties in our life, we will turn to someone for an opinion right? I just don’t know why, I started to contact my ‘Abg Long’ who is in Malaysia. I haven’t contacted him for a quite long time..even when he came to London, I didn’t give him a call when he sent warmest regards to me via my aunty.
He’s much older than me..about 5 years. I think that was the reason when I called him for an opinion, he sounded so brotherly and talked softly with his voice. At first I felt a bit ashamed because, I was trying to avoid from him last year..but then I came back to him. Our conversation was relating to my visa problems and with his help, he managed to calm me down.
That’s what big bro does right? :D Hopefully, the friendship we have, will grow stronger each seconds.
With his advise, my uncle’s and discussion with my parents, finally, I found the verdict to all the puzzles.
There was another thing that has happened to me. While I was doing my tasks, suddenly I felt so stress about a guy whom I am friend with since my sophomore year. Suddenly, all his thoughtless and heartache words started appeared on my mind and I sent 1 text to him regarding that.
Later on, around 6am (Msia time), I received a reply from him. But I couldn’t bear pressing the button to read it, hence I asked my housemate to delete it on my behalf. I know if I deleted it by myself, I will read his message and tempted to reply to him back.
But since I don’t know what he wrote, I don’t bother. HEHEHEH
Am I a bad girl? Hope I’m not.
Nway, I’m still struggling to find the focal point to study for my exams. I only have 3 crucial months to go and that’s my final hope to accomplish my mission here.
The summary of Feb 2009;
The beginning of the month was so stressful and had few emotions broke down.
But thanks to God, it ended well. My results turned to be very good and I was overwhelmed as the hard works paid.
Owh, forget to mentioned that, I have started my part time job at my Business School. My superior and the manager are very supportive and warm. I love my job now..even though the role is too simple which doesn’t require your brain, but I still noticed that I still used some parts of it because in every tasks that u do, u need to have good time management and proper planning.
The job only takes me about 1.5hours-2 hours (Even though we are required to work for 3 hours).
Anyway, I have also received my first salary!!At least I can use some of the money to buy jacket that I have always wanted. Yes, I did buy ZARA coat!Wohooooaaa
Don’t think that I can afford to buy stuffs from ZARA in Malaysia even though I earned RM 4.3k per month.
Oh ya, I managed to patch things up between my sisters in Manchester. Well, being as an eldest sister to them, I couldn’t run away when someone ask for a help. Luckily, the confrontation ended well..and the bond between us grows stronger.
Erm, When we faced difficulties in our life, we will turn to someone for an opinion right? I just don’t know why, I started to contact my ‘Abg Long’ who is in Malaysia. I haven’t contacted him for a quite long time..even when he came to London, I didn’t give him a call when he sent warmest regards to me via my aunty.
He’s much older than me..about 5 years. I think that was the reason when I called him for an opinion, he sounded so brotherly and talked softly with his voice. At first I felt a bit ashamed because, I was trying to avoid from him last year..but then I came back to him. Our conversation was relating to my visa problems and with his help, he managed to calm me down.
That’s what big bro does right? :D Hopefully, the friendship we have, will grow stronger each seconds.
With his advise, my uncle’s and discussion with my parents, finally, I found the verdict to all the puzzles.
There was another thing that has happened to me. While I was doing my tasks, suddenly I felt so stress about a guy whom I am friend with since my sophomore year. Suddenly, all his thoughtless and heartache words started appeared on my mind and I sent 1 text to him regarding that.
Later on, around 6am (Msia time), I received a reply from him. But I couldn’t bear pressing the button to read it, hence I asked my housemate to delete it on my behalf. I know if I deleted it by myself, I will read his message and tempted to reply to him back.
But since I don’t know what he wrote, I don’t bother. HEHEHEH
Am I a bad girl? Hope I’m not.
Nway, I’m still struggling to find the focal point to study for my exams. I only have 3 crucial months to go and that’s my final hope to accomplish my mission here.
Sunday, 25 January 2009
Valentine's Day..Ape relevannya?
Saya menulis ini bukanlah untuk mengutuk sesape, tapi ini adalah sekadar nukilan rase hati dan berharap ia akan membawa kesedaran kepada semua.
14th Feb..Setiap bulan, pasti semua ternanti2 untuk menyambut hari yang dikaitkan dengan cinta.I just dont get it.Why should we follow others?If Omputih nak celebrate, let them be.
For me, i will only follow what they do if it's significance enuff for me to do it.If i'm in a relationship now pon, i wont bother to celebrate it. Coz i will express my love to people whom i care EVERYDAY and not only on the 14th.
Mmg golongan yg sambut ini akan berkata, alah,bukannye kite org buat apa2 pon.
Setakat bagi bunga, chocolate jer.Tak buat apa2 yg salah.Tapi kenapa nak ikut apa Omputih buat?Kenapa bende2 lain seperti yg digalakkan dlm Islam, kita tak buat?Ei, berarak sambil berselawat pada Hari Maulidur Rasul ke?Puasa 6 ke?Jarang kan kite buat...
Tapi, kite kna fikir, apa maksud Valentine's Day itu?Apa asal usulnya?
After i've done some research,Berikut adalah sedikit sebanyak latar belakang hari kekasih
Mengikut sejarah mitos, sambutan berkenaan diasaskan oleh masyarakat Rom yang beragama Kristian sebagai memperingati peristiwa seorang paderi yang dihukum bunuh oleh pemerintah Rom, Claudius II.Saint Valentine dihukum bunuh kerana mengahwinkan salah seorang askar secara rahsia sedangkan undang-undang Rom ketika itu menghalang golongan muda berkahwin atau berkeluarga sebaliknya dikerah untuk menjadi tentera.Hari ini budaya Valentine menganjurkan orang ramai menghantar kad ucapan Valentine kepada buah hati mereka, teman karib dan orang-orang yang mereka sayangi sebagai simbolik dalam menyatakan cinta terhadap mereka.
Ada juga mitos menyebut, kad Hari Valentine dijadikan amalan memperingati peristiwa seorang paderi yang dipenjarakan dan sering menghantar kad bertulis From Your Valentine kepada kekasihnya, seorang gadis iaitu anak seorang pengawal penjara.
Namun, persoalannya..
Apakah hukum menyambut Hari Valentine pada 14 Februari dan bagaimana hendak menyedarkan golongan tersebut agar menghentikan perbuatan itu yang menjadi amalan kebanyakan remaja yang bercinta?
JAWAPAN:
Menyambut Valentine Day (Hari Kekasih) hukumnya haram. Allah s.w.t. berfirman yang bermaksud, “Dan janganlah kamu menghampiri zina sesungguhnya zina itu adalah satu perbuatan keji dan satu jalan yang jahat.’’ (al-Isra: 32) Mafhumnya, Allah s.w.t. tidak mengharamkan zina semata-mata malahan apa-apa yang boleh membawa kepada zina juga hukumnya haram.
Apa yang jelas dalam sambutan Valentine Day ialah pergaulan bebas di antara lelaki dan perempuan. Justeru, bagi menzahirkan rasa cinta, pelbagai aktiviti dilakukan yang jelas haram dan bertentangan dengan Islam. Apa yang pasti ialah pasangan kekasih akan mengadakan pertemuan demi melahirkan perasaan cinta. Pada waktu itu yang ketiga ialah syaitan yang menghasut mereka supaya melakukan perkara-perkara terkutuk.
Nabi telah menegah kita daripada meniru budaya Yahudi dan Nasrani dengan sabdanya yang bermaksud, “Nescaya kamu akan turut jejak langkah mereka (Yahudi dan Nasrani ) sejengkal demi sejengkal, sehasta demi sehasta sehingga kamu akan turuti mereka walaupun mereka masuk ke dalam lubang biawak. Lantaran sahabat bertanya: Adakah mereka itu Yahudi dan Nasrani? Baginda menjawab: Siapa lagi kalau bukan mereka.’’
Kesimpulannya, jangan la kita meniru sesuatu itu Membuta-tuli dan tidak tahu akan asal usulnya. Kerana bagi saya, semua tindakan yg kita lakukan haruslah berasaskan kepada sesuatu yg akan membimbing kita ke arah kebaikan.
Amin....
14th Feb..Setiap bulan, pasti semua ternanti2 untuk menyambut hari yang dikaitkan dengan cinta.I just dont get it.Why should we follow others?If Omputih nak celebrate, let them be.
For me, i will only follow what they do if it's significance enuff for me to do it.If i'm in a relationship now pon, i wont bother to celebrate it. Coz i will express my love to people whom i care EVERYDAY and not only on the 14th.
Mmg golongan yg sambut ini akan berkata, alah,bukannye kite org buat apa2 pon.
Setakat bagi bunga, chocolate jer.Tak buat apa2 yg salah.Tapi kenapa nak ikut apa Omputih buat?Kenapa bende2 lain seperti yg digalakkan dlm Islam, kita tak buat?Ei, berarak sambil berselawat pada Hari Maulidur Rasul ke?Puasa 6 ke?Jarang kan kite buat...
Tapi, kite kna fikir, apa maksud Valentine's Day itu?Apa asal usulnya?
After i've done some research,Berikut adalah sedikit sebanyak latar belakang hari kekasih
Mengikut sejarah mitos, sambutan berkenaan diasaskan oleh masyarakat Rom yang beragama Kristian sebagai memperingati peristiwa seorang paderi yang dihukum bunuh oleh pemerintah Rom, Claudius II.Saint Valentine dihukum bunuh kerana mengahwinkan salah seorang askar secara rahsia sedangkan undang-undang Rom ketika itu menghalang golongan muda berkahwin atau berkeluarga sebaliknya dikerah untuk menjadi tentera.Hari ini budaya Valentine menganjurkan orang ramai menghantar kad ucapan Valentine kepada buah hati mereka, teman karib dan orang-orang yang mereka sayangi sebagai simbolik dalam menyatakan cinta terhadap mereka.
Ada juga mitos menyebut, kad Hari Valentine dijadikan amalan memperingati peristiwa seorang paderi yang dipenjarakan dan sering menghantar kad bertulis From Your Valentine kepada kekasihnya, seorang gadis iaitu anak seorang pengawal penjara.
Namun, persoalannya..
Apakah hukum menyambut Hari Valentine pada 14 Februari dan bagaimana hendak menyedarkan golongan tersebut agar menghentikan perbuatan itu yang menjadi amalan kebanyakan remaja yang bercinta?
JAWAPAN:
Menyambut Valentine Day (Hari Kekasih) hukumnya haram. Allah s.w.t. berfirman yang bermaksud, “Dan janganlah kamu menghampiri zina sesungguhnya zina itu adalah satu perbuatan keji dan satu jalan yang jahat.’’ (al-Isra: 32) Mafhumnya, Allah s.w.t. tidak mengharamkan zina semata-mata malahan apa-apa yang boleh membawa kepada zina juga hukumnya haram.
Apa yang jelas dalam sambutan Valentine Day ialah pergaulan bebas di antara lelaki dan perempuan. Justeru, bagi menzahirkan rasa cinta, pelbagai aktiviti dilakukan yang jelas haram dan bertentangan dengan Islam. Apa yang pasti ialah pasangan kekasih akan mengadakan pertemuan demi melahirkan perasaan cinta. Pada waktu itu yang ketiga ialah syaitan yang menghasut mereka supaya melakukan perkara-perkara terkutuk.
Nabi telah menegah kita daripada meniru budaya Yahudi dan Nasrani dengan sabdanya yang bermaksud, “Nescaya kamu akan turut jejak langkah mereka (Yahudi dan Nasrani ) sejengkal demi sejengkal, sehasta demi sehasta sehingga kamu akan turuti mereka walaupun mereka masuk ke dalam lubang biawak. Lantaran sahabat bertanya: Adakah mereka itu Yahudi dan Nasrani? Baginda menjawab: Siapa lagi kalau bukan mereka.’’
Kesimpulannya, jangan la kita meniru sesuatu itu Membuta-tuli dan tidak tahu akan asal usulnya. Kerana bagi saya, semua tindakan yg kita lakukan haruslah berasaskan kepada sesuatu yg akan membimbing kita ke arah kebaikan.
Amin....
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